How to Get What You Want In Life. Pt 2.

Why is it Difficult?

In Part 1, I talked about one reason we often avoid being direct. We think that being direct creates more conflict when in fact, when we are direct in a non-judgemental way, it lowers the level of conflict by opening up the conversation, and it helps us get what you want in life. We looked at how most of us didn’t grow up learning how to be direct in a useful manner. We didn’t get to practice being direct so basically, we suck at it. It’s okay, I never tried hitting golf balls so I suck at that too! At the end of Part 1 we ran through a practice request that you can modify to fit every occasion and one that will help you get what you want from life.

If you haven’t read Part 1. Click Here and catch yourself up.

“WE DON’T ALLOW OURSELVES TO BE DIRECT BECAUSE SOMEWHERE DEEP IN OUR DARKEST PSYCHE, WE HANG ONTO THE IDEA THAT WE DON’T DESERVE IT”.

WELCOME TO THE DARK SIDE

There’s another reason why we often avoid being direct and this one is more nefarious. Somewhere, way deep down inside, there’s this inkling of an idea that we don’t deserve something. Maybe the thought is, “I’m not smart enough”, or “I’m not pretty enough, chic enough, talented enough”. Whatever it is, it all centers around that seed of thinking that you “aren’t…