How to Get What You Want In Life. Pt 1.

Why Is Being Direct So Difficult?

There comes a time in every relationship when you find yourself wanting to say something, yet holding back. Why is it we often find it hard to be direct with our partners, family or friends? How do we get what we want from life?

“BEING DIRECT AND ASKING FOR WHAT WE WANT FROM OTHERS CAN FEEL AWKWARD. MOSTLY BECAUSE WE HAVEN’T PRACTICED DOING THIS”.

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Being direct is often seen as conflict. This can make it difficult or uncomfortable for us to step up and ask for what we want or need. When what you and I want are different, there’s an inherent conflict we have to resolve and that can be a challenge. One thing that makes resolving this conflict harder is when one of us can’t just step right up and ask for what we want. Many times in relationships of all kinds, one person simply agrees to go with whatever is happening, even when it feels uncomfortable. In an effort not to “rock the boat”, someone gives up autonomy and their own needs. While this is great if the cruise ship is sinking and it’s a matter of women and children first, it’s not so helpful when it’s stuff that happens every day and it can keep us from really being able to get what we want from life.