How Criticism Can Make You Amazing!

IT HAPPENS TO ALL OF US.

Someone tells us how we are doing something wrong or badly and we don’t know how to handle criticism.

There comes a day….. or two….. or a whole bunch of them, when we find ourselves being criticised by someone. It might be a boss, or a friend, a parent or lover, it hardly matters who is doing the talking, it can feel super hurtful all the same.

So when it happens, how do you handle criticism?

Do you cringe and shrink from the person? Do you get angry or lash out at them? Do you stuff it all inside and then pretend it didn’t get to you at all? Or do you take it personally and start to work really hard on changing whatever it is they told you?

Here’s the dirty little secret about criticism……….

90% of the time it isn’t about you at all!

How’s that again?

90% of the time it’s about the person doing the talking.

Seriously!

Unless you are a student talking to your teacher about why that painting, or poem or project doesn’t do what you wanted it to do. Or you are hashing out with your boss or team why you didn’t meet your goals, it’s more than likely that what you are hearing is “non-productive criticism”. And that my friends, is “all about me and not about you”.